Say "goodbye, debate"

Nevertheless, there is a camp that supports the view that a woman isn’t living up to her potential, or worse making a detrimental decision for herself and her children, if she doesn’t maintain her career after having children; and a camp that supports the view that mothers returning home is the only answer to solving many of the problems that children and families face today. These camps have had their supporters ever since the debate began. I would like to dissolve these camps and have moms join together in support of each other, regardless of our working situations. We are not doing anyone any good by continuing to provide fuel to the debate. We are, however, propagating a harmful myth, placing incredible pressure on ourselves and others, and putting far too much focus on an issue instead of the health of women and their ability to take care of their families.
The myth that is so harmful to us moms is this: that we can have it all. I have heard this statement my whole life. Ever since the women’s lib movement, women have been able to “have it all.” We can have children and a career. We can eat our cake (be promiscuous before marriage due to birth control) and have it too (have a great, committed marriage regardless of the decisions we made in relationships before marriage.) We can be a corporate executive, room mother, and sex goddess all in one day. Can anyone say: “yeah, right!”