Monday, February 4, 2008

Balance through Self Discipline

Posted by Tracy Wainwright at 8:27 PM
Ourselves is a good place to start with saying no. This is otherwise known as self-discipline. Mommyhodd teaches us a lot about self-discipline. Discipline often gets a bad rap, but it is hugely beneficial trait. All self- discipline is is to tell yourself no when it is in the best interest of you or someone else. When that baby is crying in the middle of the night and you want to roll over and go back to sleep, you get up because you know that baby needs you. When you don’t feel good and would like to curl up in front of the tv, you dress and feed and maybe even play with your children. When you would really like a bowl of ice cream for lunch, you fix the salad (and maybe have the ice cream for dessert.) We all have the foundations of discipline, we just don’t like to exercise it very often.
What we don’t realize is that we will pay now or pay later. If I choose to eat unhealthily and not to exercise, I will pay by feeling sluggish and not being able to fit into my clothes. If I choose not to clean my house at all, I will pay by my family being sick more. If I choose to take on too many responsibilities outside of my home, I will pay by losing the close relationship with my husband and my children. If I choose to neglect any of my areas of priorities, I will pay in some way at some time.
In order to become better at saying no, I have to practice saying it and being okay with it. If I don’t feel that a certain responsibility or project is something I should take on, I don’t need to worry about who will do it or how it will get done. If I feel that a person is going to be disappointed with me for not doing something, I have to realize that their disappointment is more about their incorrect expectations of me, not a devaluing of who I am. I have gained an understanding that my self worth is not wrapped up in what I do or what other people think of me, and that has helped my be able to say no with confidence. I still have a lot of responsibilities, but I make sure that they are the right responsibilities for me and my family for right now and that they won’t throw me off balance.

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Monday, February 4, 2008

Balance through Self Discipline

Ourselves is a good place to start with saying no. This is otherwise known as self-discipline. Mommyhodd teaches us a lot about self-discipline. Discipline often gets a bad rap, but it is hugely beneficial trait. All self- discipline is is to tell yourself no when it is in the best interest of you or someone else. When that baby is crying in the middle of the night and you want to roll over and go back to sleep, you get up because you know that baby needs you. When you don’t feel good and would like to curl up in front of the tv, you dress and feed and maybe even play with your children. When you would really like a bowl of ice cream for lunch, you fix the salad (and maybe have the ice cream for dessert.) We all have the foundations of discipline, we just don’t like to exercise it very often.
What we don’t realize is that we will pay now or pay later. If I choose to eat unhealthily and not to exercise, I will pay by feeling sluggish and not being able to fit into my clothes. If I choose not to clean my house at all, I will pay by my family being sick more. If I choose to take on too many responsibilities outside of my home, I will pay by losing the close relationship with my husband and my children. If I choose to neglect any of my areas of priorities, I will pay in some way at some time.
In order to become better at saying no, I have to practice saying it and being okay with it. If I don’t feel that a certain responsibility or project is something I should take on, I don’t need to worry about who will do it or how it will get done. If I feel that a person is going to be disappointed with me for not doing something, I have to realize that their disappointment is more about their incorrect expectations of me, not a devaluing of who I am. I have gained an understanding that my self worth is not wrapped up in what I do or what other people think of me, and that has helped my be able to say no with confidence. I still have a lot of responsibilities, but I make sure that they are the right responsibilities for me and my family for right now and that they won’t throw me off balance.

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