Thursday, July 24, 2008

Random Mommy Tip #4

Posted by Tracy Wainwright at 2:34 PM 0 comments
Flour Power - It started out as a science project. I was teaching my 5-year-old about germs and washing hands. I let her play with some flour (germs) and then gave her a carrot to eat - without eating any germs. The lesson took (I think), but more than that we found a new form of entertainment. My 3-year-old joined in and they played with the flour, cups, spoons, etc. at the bar for over an hour while I cooked dinner. It gets a little messy, but I have to clean up the kitchen and sweep after meals anyway, so once in a while we get out the flour and tools and they "cook" while I do. Recently my 14-month-old also joined in. They love it and it's easy, cheap, creative entertainment!

Tuesday, July 22, 2008

Accepting Forgiveness

Posted by Tracy Wainwright at 2:35 PM 1 comments
I haven't posted in a couple weeks, no reason really, just busy with life and on revising some early writing for the book. It's interesting, however, that I never moved beyond the forgiveness part of healing since an issue has come up where I've had to work through accepting God's forgiveness and work on forgiving myself. It has been a great reminder to me how easy it is to get out of step with the Holy Spirit - even when my intentions were good and even when I was trying to follow scripture. What I didn't do was stop and listen to the guidance of the Holy Spirit. After working so hard to stay in God's will and live a believing life - leaning on, relying on, and trusting in Him, it was excruciating to be out of His will and feel the consequences of not just sin, but a transgression (sin while knowing the right thing.) I've had to remind myself that God has already forgiven me and I'd be a fool to give up on Him, because He will never give up on me. Although for a few moments I felt like giving up, and even questioned my ability to be a good mom, I decided not to stay in sin (by not accepting His forgiveness), but instead to use this painful experience to really evaluate myself. I will now take the lessons God has so graciously given me along with His forgiveness and do my best to use them to bring more glory to Him.

Monday, July 7, 2008

What Forgiveness Is

Posted by Tracy Wainwright at 9:17 PM 2 comments
"Forgiveness
- begins with God...
- (shows we trust)that God alone can restore and heal us completely...
- (shows we trust) that God is totally and compeltely opposed to evil and sees it whenever and wherever it occurs...
- allows us to look at ourselves honestly: as broken children of God..."
- empowers us

The Truth Behind the Mommy Wars: Who Decides What Makes a Good Mother
by: Miriam Peskowitz

Saturday, July 5, 2008

Get Out of That Pitt

Posted by Tracy Wainwright at 8:58 PM 0 comments
Beth Moore says that there are three steps to healing.
1 - cry out: acknowledge the problem and the need for God
2 - cofess: agree with what God says about Him and you
3 - consent: go along with the healing process

We have to make up our minds to get well, to not stay stuck in the pain and revicimize ourselves daily. When we don't choose to heal, we choose to be the victim over and over again, to live a defeated life, and to keep the pain fresh. When we choose to heal we open the door to the joy that Jesus lived and died for us to have.

John 10:10 The theif comes only to steal and kill and detroy;I have come that they might have life and have it to the full.

Wednesday, July 2, 2008

What Forgiveness is not

Posted by Tracy Wainwright at 9:14 PM 0 comments
When choosing to forgive it is important to know what forgivenes is not. This helps to eliminate fear that we often have when we think about forgiving. According to Kim Gaines Eckert in STRONGER THAN YOU THINK, forgiveness "does not mean:
- we forget what happened to us
- we excuse the people who hurt us and say that..their actions are okay
- (we have to reconcile)
- we pretent the hurts never happened
- we ignore our wounds
- we allow others to hurt us repeatedly"

When we think about forgiveness we often have a picture of weakness, an individual who gets run over and abused constantly. But true forgiveness does not mean being weak. True forgiveness gives us the power to take care of ourselves in a healthy way and takes the power away from the person or event that has caused us pain. It is a sign of strength to be able to choose to forgive, choose to be healthy, and choose to take care of ourselves by healing from past hurts and to stop the cycle of pain that comes with being a victim. We no longer carry the pain. We scrape out the infection (bitterness, fear, anger) that had grown in the wound (the original offense/event) and care for it properly as it heals.

Tuesday, July 1, 2008

Forgiveness

Posted by Tracy Wainwright at 4:08 PM 0 comments
A major part of healing from and dealing with difficult circumstances in life is forgiveness. Sometimes we have to forgive others, sometimes we have to forgive ourselves. We can learn the most about forgiveness by looking to God.

In their book WHEN IT'S HARD TO FORGIVE by Goldie Bristol and Carol McGinnis, we find that "Faith in Christ (is) the foundation for a forgiving lifestyle...Forgiveness was very much a part of Jesus' lifestyle...(His) whole purpose in coming to earth was to die so that our sins could be forgiven. Accepting this great divine forgiveness enables us to forgive others."

When we recognize that God forgives us everything when we ask, and all that he has forgiven us for, it becomes easier to forgive others. It is still not easy, however. We often don't feel like forgiving others and sometimes just don't know how to forgive. We have to purposefully and intentionally choose to forgive. To do this we need to have an understanding of exactly what forgiving is and what it isn't.

Thursday, July 24, 2008

Random Mommy Tip #4

Flour Power - It started out as a science project. I was teaching my 5-year-old about germs and washing hands. I let her play with some flour (germs) and then gave her a carrot to eat - without eating any germs. The lesson took (I think), but more than that we found a new form of entertainment. My 3-year-old joined in and they played with the flour, cups, spoons, etc. at the bar for over an hour while I cooked dinner. It gets a little messy, but I have to clean up the kitchen and sweep after meals anyway, so once in a while we get out the flour and tools and they "cook" while I do. Recently my 14-month-old also joined in. They love it and it's easy, cheap, creative entertainment!

Tuesday, July 22, 2008

Accepting Forgiveness

I haven't posted in a couple weeks, no reason really, just busy with life and on revising some early writing for the book. It's interesting, however, that I never moved beyond the forgiveness part of healing since an issue has come up where I've had to work through accepting God's forgiveness and work on forgiving myself. It has been a great reminder to me how easy it is to get out of step with the Holy Spirit - even when my intentions were good and even when I was trying to follow scripture. What I didn't do was stop and listen to the guidance of the Holy Spirit. After working so hard to stay in God's will and live a believing life - leaning on, relying on, and trusting in Him, it was excruciating to be out of His will and feel the consequences of not just sin, but a transgression (sin while knowing the right thing.) I've had to remind myself that God has already forgiven me and I'd be a fool to give up on Him, because He will never give up on me. Although for a few moments I felt like giving up, and even questioned my ability to be a good mom, I decided not to stay in sin (by not accepting His forgiveness), but instead to use this painful experience to really evaluate myself. I will now take the lessons God has so graciously given me along with His forgiveness and do my best to use them to bring more glory to Him.

Monday, July 7, 2008

What Forgiveness Is

"Forgiveness
- begins with God...
- (shows we trust)that God alone can restore and heal us completely...
- (shows we trust) that God is totally and compeltely opposed to evil and sees it whenever and wherever it occurs...
- allows us to look at ourselves honestly: as broken children of God..."
- empowers us

The Truth Behind the Mommy Wars: Who Decides What Makes a Good Mother
by: Miriam Peskowitz

Saturday, July 5, 2008

Get Out of That Pitt

Beth Moore says that there are three steps to healing.
1 - cry out: acknowledge the problem and the need for God
2 - cofess: agree with what God says about Him and you
3 - consent: go along with the healing process

We have to make up our minds to get well, to not stay stuck in the pain and revicimize ourselves daily. When we don't choose to heal, we choose to be the victim over and over again, to live a defeated life, and to keep the pain fresh. When we choose to heal we open the door to the joy that Jesus lived and died for us to have.

John 10:10 The theif comes only to steal and kill and detroy;I have come that they might have life and have it to the full.

Wednesday, July 2, 2008

What Forgiveness is not

When choosing to forgive it is important to know what forgivenes is not. This helps to eliminate fear that we often have when we think about forgiving. According to Kim Gaines Eckert in STRONGER THAN YOU THINK, forgiveness "does not mean:
- we forget what happened to us
- we excuse the people who hurt us and say that..their actions are okay
- (we have to reconcile)
- we pretent the hurts never happened
- we ignore our wounds
- we allow others to hurt us repeatedly"

When we think about forgiveness we often have a picture of weakness, an individual who gets run over and abused constantly. But true forgiveness does not mean being weak. True forgiveness gives us the power to take care of ourselves in a healthy way and takes the power away from the person or event that has caused us pain. It is a sign of strength to be able to choose to forgive, choose to be healthy, and choose to take care of ourselves by healing from past hurts and to stop the cycle of pain that comes with being a victim. We no longer carry the pain. We scrape out the infection (bitterness, fear, anger) that had grown in the wound (the original offense/event) and care for it properly as it heals.

Tuesday, July 1, 2008

Forgiveness

A major part of healing from and dealing with difficult circumstances in life is forgiveness. Sometimes we have to forgive others, sometimes we have to forgive ourselves. We can learn the most about forgiveness by looking to God.

In their book WHEN IT'S HARD TO FORGIVE by Goldie Bristol and Carol McGinnis, we find that "Faith in Christ (is) the foundation for a forgiving lifestyle...Forgiveness was very much a part of Jesus' lifestyle...(His) whole purpose in coming to earth was to die so that our sins could be forgiven. Accepting this great divine forgiveness enables us to forgive others."

When we recognize that God forgives us everything when we ask, and all that he has forgiven us for, it becomes easier to forgive others. It is still not easy, however. We often don't feel like forgiving others and sometimes just don't know how to forgive. We have to purposefully and intentionally choose to forgive. To do this we need to have an understanding of exactly what forgiving is and what it isn't.
 

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