Sunday, April 18, 2010

Posted by Tracy Wainwright at 4:02 PM
Do you ever question yourself as a mom? I do. I wonder: "Am I being too hard?" Am I letting them get away with too much?" Should I take them to the doctor when I think it's just a cold?" "Does it really matter if I demand they dress up to go certain places?"

I think as moms we all tend to question ourselves. I also think this is a sign of healthiness.

As a counselor, one standard belief we held was that the healthiest people sought help. Those who are really unhealthy tend to lack the insight to know how unhealthy they are - or they choose to ignore problems. I think the same is true for us as moms.

Now, there is a balance. Sometimes we can question ourselves too much. Every decision, every action, every nuance is questioned and doubted. Generally in this situation, the mom drowns in a sea of uncertainness and the child ends up with the power - One of the most damaging things for our children.

To be aware, conscious of, our decisions as moms, is helpful along our journey. In looking back over the seven years I've been a mom, I'm grateful for the lessons I've learned. I am, without a doubt, a more patient mom with my fourth baby than I was with my first. I look back at their newborn pictures and am reminded how quickly they grow and go hug each one of them tightly.

I wonder how great an impact the mistakes I've made as a mom have on my children. It does impact them, I know. But because I am purposeful in how I parent, I tell my children I'm sorry when I do make those mistakes, and move on without guilt. Just as God convicts us of sin without condemnation, we are to acknowledge our mistakes as parents, make reparations, and move on. If we're hanging on to guilt, we condemn and rob ourselves from being the best we can be.

A quote I read recently referenced the importance of living intentionally every day - morally & spiritually. It's also important to be intentional about what kind of Mommy we are and make the small decisions on a day to day basis that help us to the next level of our journey - to becoming the Mommy God created the potential in us to be.

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Sunday, April 18, 2010

Do you ever question yourself as a mom? I do. I wonder: "Am I being too hard?" Am I letting them get away with too much?" Should I take them to the doctor when I think it's just a cold?" "Does it really matter if I demand they dress up to go certain places?"

I think as moms we all tend to question ourselves. I also think this is a sign of healthiness.

As a counselor, one standard belief we held was that the healthiest people sought help. Those who are really unhealthy tend to lack the insight to know how unhealthy they are - or they choose to ignore problems. I think the same is true for us as moms.

Now, there is a balance. Sometimes we can question ourselves too much. Every decision, every action, every nuance is questioned and doubted. Generally in this situation, the mom drowns in a sea of uncertainness and the child ends up with the power - One of the most damaging things for our children.

To be aware, conscious of, our decisions as moms, is helpful along our journey. In looking back over the seven years I've been a mom, I'm grateful for the lessons I've learned. I am, without a doubt, a more patient mom with my fourth baby than I was with my first. I look back at their newborn pictures and am reminded how quickly they grow and go hug each one of them tightly.

I wonder how great an impact the mistakes I've made as a mom have on my children. It does impact them, I know. But because I am purposeful in how I parent, I tell my children I'm sorry when I do make those mistakes, and move on without guilt. Just as God convicts us of sin without condemnation, we are to acknowledge our mistakes as parents, make reparations, and move on. If we're hanging on to guilt, we condemn and rob ourselves from being the best we can be.

A quote I read recently referenced the importance of living intentionally every day - morally & spiritually. It's also important to be intentional about what kind of Mommy we are and make the small decisions on a day to day basis that help us to the next level of our journey - to becoming the Mommy God created the potential in us to be.

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